Not a Doormat

not doormats

Selfless, Caring, Loving, Sensitive, Generous are beautiful character traits which many take for granted. Some people give all these qualities and more to those they care about, but get hurt over and over again.

Do they forgive?  

YES!! Over and over again, they do.  Not because they are stupid. Not because they are Doormats but because they are kinder than kind with beautiful hearts. 

“Let’s be grateful for those who give us happiness;They are the charming gardeners who make our soul bloom”. ~ M Proust

Blessings to you.

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Poem – Decades of Love


Succumbing to Bitterness


Succumbing to Bitterness – 3 Words: Not worth it.


Ofcourse, it’s easier said than done because the heart hurts. However, if we don’t let it go, this is what bitterness does to people:

a) Bitterness Ages people. They look at least 5 years older.

b) Bitterness attracts Negative Karma. In life we  attract what we give out.

c) It  makes tumours grow in the body. This can be terminal.

d) Bitterness robs the body of energy. It just saps!

What if there is  bitterness towards a family member and one day they die?  People start wishing they didn’t take it too far and wish they made peace with them  – Too late!!…….then Pain and bitterness Round Two starts.


If this is you, let it go for your own peace and happiness.

(Therapy is an option too)

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Make room for Joy

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Make room for Joy

Amidst the busy hectic week or day, find time to do something that makes you feel very happy inside. It could be spending time in/with a hobby or spending time with a special person.

It’s a time when all your worries evaporate and you just lose yourself completely in the beauty of the moment. Do more of what makes you happy.

Make room for joy in your life.  (◕‿◕)


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Where ever you are – Shine


Let your light Shine.

a) Be kind to people around you.

b) Always have a smile, not a face like thunder.

c) Don’t absorb any negative said about you. Shrug it off. With time the truth will be known.

d) Think of ways to improve situations. E.g your job, your relationships, anywhere you find yourself.

e) Find time to meditate as the inner you needs that peaceful time. If there is peace/joy on the inside, it will reflect on the outside.

f) Have a humble spirit. Proud people are quick to fall in life and many want to see it, but the humble will go so far, so quickly, as they attract lots of positive energy. Even God resists the Proud and gives grace to the humble.

g) When people come to you, ensure they leave in a better / happier frame of mind.


Bloom where you are planted. Let your name only be known for Good.

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Flirting with the milk man again!


They say Jealousy can be healthy but to a point. Some men and women get very jealous. They can’t even bear their boyfriend looking at an attractive lady passing by.



a) If a lady chats to the milkman, partner says she is flirting. Meanwhile, she is having polite conversation. Good community Spirit.

b) A man was once smiling and chatting to a lady the girl friend had never met. True Story – She was fuming and with no hesitation, she walked up and slapped him, only to find out it was a distant relative. Ouch!!

c) A woman discovers a beautiful wrapped Jewelry gift box, hidden in her partners trousers (what was she looking for anyway?) Then goes to find him and lashes out. He gently, takes the box from her, unwraps and opens it. It’s a beautiful diamond watch and bracelet with the words inscribed “I Love you”  on it and her name.


Should he take the gift back? Mmmh… I’ll let you ponder.

Can we just put some trust in our relationships and not get all wound up, if a bee buzzes past our partner. Men admire women, Women admire men….. but not all partners are players. The admiration stops there. We can’t walk round in blindfolds. Choose to trust. If you keep on thinking they’ll cheat, your thinking might just attract that circumstance.  #LOA

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The Power of Appreciation


The Power of Appreciation

Appreciation goes along way in building healthy and happy relationships. People respect you or take to you because you make them feel important.

1) A Boss who says to his staff at the end of each day or week. “Thank you so much for all your help” will get the best out of staff and they’ll be more than willing to do an extra hours work, if ever the company has urgent deadlines. Ofcourse bonuses and Pay rises go a long way too.

2) A Parent who appreciates any little progress made at school or home by children, will bring out more of that child’s potential because the child will feel loved and would want to please more / do better.

3) Partners/Spouses who appreciate themselves and what they do for each other will always be happy and will constantly think of things to do, that will make each other happy. Remind your partner of how special they are to you. (◕‿◕)

4) A Business Owner should think of ways to appreciate customers, so when other competitors try to “snatch” them, the customers won’t be swayed.

There is a lady who cleans our office. Very quiet. Sometimes, I teach 6 – 9pm, so I see her. At Christmas and Easter, I give her gifts. The smile on her face Priceless!! She doesn’t expect it. (To me, she is just as important as other Colleagues and Directors). People never ever forget how good you make them feel, no matter how small and I am grateful to all who have made me feel the same way too.

Ps. Appreciation should never cease. Many relationships breakup because people no longer feel appreciated.


Obama doing the Fist Bump (respect sign) with one of his Staff.

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Make Peace with your Past


☆҉‿ Forget the words that cut like knives.

Forget those you opened your heart to and they stamped all over it.

Forget those who repaid you terribly, for all the good you did.

The deceit that was given for your unwavering trust.

Release it all without looking back – face the future with renewed hope

and as you hope for the best, you will definitely attract it.  


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